Next blog on my father's need to put adventure in our lives without even trying
Friday, October 16, 2009
I love both my parents and I had a great childhood to their standards. I'm just amazed my siblings and I survived with minimal injuries and little therapy. We actually grew up to be functional adults with great careers and wonderful children of our own(except the little sis she gets married november 2009,and I hopefully jinks her with twins). I now find myself repeating my parents antics, not all were bad its was just the need that my mother had great pleasure in scaring the hell out of us. Didn't have to be halloween or a full moon for the mood to hit her that she needed to scare us. She enjoyed jumping out of the bushes just as we were coming in from playing outside,and scream in her most horrific voice " I'M NOT YOUR MOTHER!" Like a women possessed by the devil and chase back into the house. Do you think she would stop right their oh no not that women. She would chase us all over the house, screaming those words " I'm not your mother!" I remember this one time my little sister Ally was taking a bath,My older sister amber was in the den, and I was in the kitchen with my mother talking. Then I looked up and saw that look in her eye followed by the words " I'm not your mother!"AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! the chase was on. First I ran to the den where Amber was and she too was being chased by the possessed women we call mom. The next stop was right into the bathroom were ally was taking her bath. We locked the door behind us in hopes of protecting ourselves from the monster known as I'm not your mother. In our desperate need to get away from mommy dearest I failed to lock the adjoining door to the bathroom. She comes through the unlocked door,by this time ally has gotten out of the bath tub and wrapped a towel around herself. We unlock the door and all three of us was chased upstairs to the toy room/attic and into the walk in closet. There we are able to hold the door shut from scary women antics. She finally stared to calm down(mainly do to her uncontrollable laughter) and we walk out of the closet laughing as well. My mother walked into the walk in closet and noticed that someone relived themselves on one of her suit cases. The blame went to Ally because she was the one in the towel and the youngest. Also has been known to pee on herself in stressful situations(kidding on the last one). What is little known in this story is that when we were in the closet,it was ally and I who was holding the door closed while wild old lady was scaring the hell out of us and Amber was the one at the end of the closet next to the suit cases, (Think about, thats all I'm saying) So why is it when I get this froggy feeling and I want to chase and scare my children just as she scared us so many years ago(example hiding under Lily's bed and wait for her to walk by and grab her ankles or put a zombi in her closet ect. fun things like that) She tells me I shouldn't do that because I might give them a complex. Okay Ally was 5, I was 6,and Amber was 11 and she's been doing that for as long as I can remember and again we came out okay by most standards right? Don't answer that.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
I've been a nurse since 2002, in that time I have worked in trauma,ICU,ER,Med-Surg,and my current post as an Acute dialysis nurse. I have seen things that would make most people cringe and possible never return. I have worked with great nurses that taught me so many things about the practice and some nurses that for the life of me,can't figure out why they got into nursing in the first place. Health care is ever changing and in order keep up I have to keep an open mind and continue to learn. Given with my experiences, I had the privilege of giving a talk/presentation to soon graduating LVN's. I of course talked about Dialysis,and I also talked about my other experiences. I was told not to say anything negative or other experiences that didn't have a happy ending. I had a problem with that, How can you give a talk to soon graduating nurses without telling them the truth about nursing? With nursing you have to take the good and the bad. It's not an easy profession to get into. You have to be able to handle anything that comes at you,wether it's a gun shot victim or a crying child you have to do everything in your power to keep a level head. Why cuddle the students and shield them from the truth? The nursing instructors, that taught me didn't hold anything back, they gave me the experiences I needed in order to survive this profession. Without them being completely honest with me about nursing I don't think I could survive my first year. I wanted to instill some type of wisdom to them, to let know its okay to make mistakes. We are human. The difference is you need to own up to it and learned from it. Don't deny it and blame someone else because you don't want to look like your incompetent. Learn from experience. Thats true nursing. There isn't such a thing as text book nursing. Team work is really the only way to go. Its easier to get the job done when you have someone there to help. Always try to help when you can. Never say this isn't my job or part of your job description(with in reason), nothings impossible when you put your mind to it. Always remember the people that helped you get where are today. There's always going to be a grumpy,over worked nurse that nobody can stand and it might be tempting to go along the crowd and join in the ridicule of that nurse DON'T DO IT,offer them some candy sugar free if there diabetic, be nice. You might make a difference in their life,you might even change their mood for the better. Even if it doesn't work and they continue to be grumpy maybe when they finally do snap and go on a rampage they'll spare you because you where the one who took the time to be nice and you gave them candy. Try to leave your home baggage at home and your work baggage at work. I know it's easier said then done but try anyway. If you work in the Emergency Department realize you will have frequent flyers that come there for different things,most of the time its for drugs and they will make up just about anything to get them. Don't turn your back on them or give them what ever they need for the time without doing a real work up. Because one day they will show with different symptoms than before and not do what is required and you missed it they leave and dropped dead. You missed a chance to save a life. A true story just see were I'm coming from. I was working in a small town hospital in the ER. This town was so small everyone knows each other. I wasn't there for maybe a few weeks when I got introduced to the towns pill head as they put it. She came in complaining of heartburn,nausea, and vomiting. I being a prudent nurse was prepared to do a work up when the senior nurse comes up and just gives her a shot of morphine and told she could leave. She smiled got up and walked out without saying a word. I was dumbfounded I couldn't believe what I just experienced and asked the nurse why he didn't do a cardiac panel or at least an EKG,vital signs, something ? He said she comes her every time this doctor is covering because he will give her what she wants without questions. As this woman was walking out of the ER she dropped dead of a massive MI. We worked on her for over an hour to try to bring her back but couldn't. It might of not made a difference if we did the cardiac work up but we will never know because it wasn't done. My last words of wisdom: Continue with your education you can never know to much,and if you don't know something look it up, ask questions, do research. Never pretend that you know all the answers to everything nursing. When the time comes and you find yourself start hating the job and you start becoming lazy and don't want to do the job or if you start to take out your aggression out on patients, co-workers, and love ones. GET OUT OF THIS PROFESSION !!!!!!!!!!! retire,take a break,get counseling.